I’m a first time client, and I’m feeling very nervous…

24 Apr 2023

 This is a post for the first-timers out there: gentlemen (or ladies!) who are new to seeing escorts and may be feeling nervous, or unsure of what the booking procedure and the date itself will be like. You may be someone with very limited experience of sex with a partner, or you may have had lots of partners and relationships, and be confident in the bedroom, but brand new to seeing sex workers.
Either way, you have probably been thinking about it for a while now, looking at the websites of service providers that pique your interest, maybe even talking to friends for advice… and the time has come to dive into the deep end!

Read on for advice on and tips about how to make sure this will be a great experience for you, and for your escort too.

Who should I see?

Probably the most important aspect of planning a great date, is making sure you choose the right escort for you. There are a few different ways to procure the services of a sex worker, from visiting a brothel or massage parlour; or booking an agency escort by calling up an agency; to contacting an independent escort via a directory, social media, or better still, their own website.

Booking an independent escort through their own website will give you a much greater degree of control and personalisation over your experience than any other option. With any professional independent escort, you can clearly see their personality and style shine through from the way they present themselves online, and get a good idea of whether you will feel happy and relaxed spending time alone with them. Also, you know that they themselves have chosen to offer the service(s) described on their site, because they want to – you don’t have to worry about asking “do you really offer X?” or “do you really enjoy Y?” – we are in charge of what we do, and the services we advertise are generally accurate.

And how do you know which services are right for you? There are many different services available from many different escorts, which are sometimes referred to by a confusing array of acronyms! Amongst others, these include GFE (Girlfriend Experience) and PSE (Pornstar Experience) as well as other services such as massage, kink and fetish services, and services that aren’t directly sexual such as cuddling and dinner dates. Most dinner dates do lead to sex afterwards though – it’s an urban myth that some escorts only ever have dinner with their clients. We share much naughtier things than dessert…

As you can imagine, not every date involves strictly one of the services listed, and many will be a combination of two (or more). Choose a provider that specialises in the primary service you are looking for. For those that are new to this, and want to experience the sweetness and excitement of that boy-meets-girl feeling, including kissing, oral sex, and penetration, as well as lots of attention, laughs, and flirty conversation – the Girlfriend Experience is definitely what you are looking for.

How do I book?

So now you’ve carefully chosen your desired service provider… what next? Make sure you read through their website thoroughly before contacting them to book. This will provide information about how they prefer to be contacted (usually phone, text, email, or a contact form).
When making contact to arrange a date with them, be sure to include the details, such as the day, time, location, and your phone number – or else you will not be prioritised amongst the many other inquiries in their inbox. Also take this opportunity to ask any further questions you have about your escort, their service, or the date you are planning – but make sure you don’t ask any questions that are already answered elsewhere on her site, as it won’t make a good first impression.

When you contact me to request a booking (ideally via my contact form or email address) I will respond as quickly as possible – usually the same day or next day – to let you know that I am available, or suggest an alternative day/time if I am not. Once we have agreed on our date, I will send you the instructions for making the deposit, and once I have received that, I will send you the address and parking information for the venue where we will meet, if you are visiting me for an incall; and ask you to send me the hotel or home address I will be attending for an outcall.
Finally, I will specify the time I would like you to send me a confirmation text/whatsapp message, usually either the day before or the morning of our date. And you’re all set!

What do I need to do to prepare? Should I bring anything with me?

To put it bluntly, all you need to do is have a good scrub and turn up. The importance of personal hygiene cannot be overstated here. Make sure you are fresh from head to toe right before meeting your escort. She will be sure to notice the effort you have put in for her, and the session will get off to a wonderful start.
You don’t need to bring anything with you – apart from the appropriate fee and a smile! We will provide everything required; things like condoms, lube, and clean towels. If you have a particular preference with condoms (eg due to a latex allergy), make your escort aware of this well before the booking so she can provide them. Most escorts do not encourage clients to arrive with their own condoms.

Now that you have got a plan in place with your gorgeous date, you can just relax and enjoy the anticipation. Providing sexual services as an independent escort is totally legal in the UK, so neither you nor I will be breaking the law in any way. Even so, there are still many negative portrayals of sex workers in the media, but now you have made plans personally with an independent escort, you can push those stereotypes aside, to focus on the exciting, unique, and charming individual you are about to share a very intimate experience with.

What will happen during the booking?

So they day has finally arrived, and you have sent your confirmation text as requested, washed behind your ears, and arrived on her doorstep at exactly the right time… what happens on the other side of that door?

If you are nervous and would like to chat first, or simply prefer to pace yourself rather than tearing clothes off straight away, then we can sit together and share a drink and a conversation to get to know each other. In a hotel, we can meet at the bar before going up to your room, and in a house or apartment we can get cosy on the couch before heading to the bedroom.
If you are coming for an incall, I will then offer you a shower, and if you have just showered, I will invite you to wash your hands. When I’m coming for an outcall, please ensure there is a clean towel waiting for me to do the same.

And everything that happens after that, shall remain between us…

Do we have to do penetration?

Of course not. There are many different aspects of sex other than this, and we don’t have to be engaging in sexual activities for all (or any) of the booking time.
If you are a virgin, or you are hoping to increase your experience or skill level in the bedroom, seeing escorts is a sensible and healthy way to do this. You can use your experiences with escorts to take control of your sexuality, and build up your confidence by creating the sex life you desire, rather than waiting for your ideal partners to fall into your lap… because usually, they don’t!

You can ask also your escort to answer questions you have about sex, and the bodies of the opposite gender, as well as to give you tips or feedback to improve your performance. There are many ways that a date with us can be an enriching experience, beyond just putting a football in a goal, so to speak…

Now that you are armed with all the information needed to pop your escort cherry, go on and write that booking email, and I dare you to send it 😉

A kiss on the lips…

Summer Dahlia 🧡 xxx

Join me on a journey into tantra

I’m very excited to finally share with you something that I have been working on for a little while now. From April 2024, I will be offering tantric massage in sessions lasting either 90 minutes or two hours.

This will be a sensual and erotic experience that is mostly passive on your part. It will involve a relaxing and indulgent variety of sensory stimuli that I will guide you in throughout the session, focussing on a hand and body to body to massage, with the possibility of ending with a lingam or yoni massage if you feel desire for it in the moment.


How I discovered the pleasure of tantra

I have wanted to learn about tantra for a long time, and the opportunity seemed perfect when I met a tantric massage teacher around a year ago, who kindly agreed to teach me his techniques. He began our first session by explaining to me some of the background and philosophy behind tantra before performing an incredible massage on me, using his hands, an oil that smelled mysterious and magical, a blindfold to heighten my senses, and some soft and sensual materials to stimulate my skin with touch.

It was a very intense and dizzying experience, unlike anything that had been done to me before. My curiosity was hooked in from that very first session, and over the last months I have been practising how to perform tantric massage on others, with the help of a couple of close friends and agreeable clients.


The intention of Tantric Massage

The aim of tantric massage is to use different types of sensory stimulation to awaken and liberate sexual energy. The awakening of that energy and the pleasure of the experience is used to harmonize mind, body and spirit. During the session, you should feel a strong connection not only between your own mind and body, but also between yourself and the person you are sharing in the experience with. Tantric massage is about soulful connection and enjoyment of all the senses rather than achieving the on-demand orgasm we often think of when defining sexual satisfaction. The idea is to ride the peaks and waves of sexual pleasure without focussing on genital release via penetration and orgasm. The session may or may not include these pleasures, but they are just one part of the journey rather than the destination.


Booking A Tantric Massage

I am currently offering tantric massage sessions in lengths of 90 minutes (at £180) or two hours (at £220).
Massage sessions are available as an incall only so that I can be sure to provide a warm, relaxing and calming space to perform the massage.
A shower will be available for you before and after the massage, and I will be using my own home made massage oil, made from all natural ingredients and infused with essential oils.

Contact me via my contact form to arrange a tantric expereince for us to share, in Birmingham or any of my tour locations. I’m very excited to share a beautiful and erotic experience with you 🧡